Looking for more ways to treat Vaginismus?

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I am looking for some serious answers. This is a emotionally painful and embarrassing issue enough for me to share, I really don't need the wise comments.

I would like to hear from both women who have had to deal with this issue (or friends of women) and men whose partners have had this issue. For the men, share some advice on how you got through it emotionally, ways you gave support, and things you did to aid in your partner's healing.

I have a diagnosis for vaginismus related to Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (also diagnosed) and I am undergoing intensive therapy to help change my belief system around sex. I am going to get those graduated dialators from vaginismus.com next week.

My fiance and I have tried inserting finger, and sometimes it works but with a lot of burning. It never works with a vibrater. We've been trying for about 3 years; I started seeing a therapist about a year and a half ago on this issue.

Will add additional details momentarily...
As far as OBGYN exams, internal ones are out of the question. My attitude is-if they want to do one, they'll do it over my dead body. Really.

I'd like to hear about additional things to help aid my healing. I know it will take time.

Thank you.
Hi,

I'm very sorry that you have this condition. I know how incredibly frustrating it can be.

Fortunately for you, there are several online support groups that you can join. Start with primaryvaginismus in yahoo groups. Those women are sufferers themselves, so they will be able to relate and give you support and encouragement. Men don't really do as well with "support groups" per se, but often those women will connect their men with eachother. My husband had one that he chatted with regularly.

The dilators will be a BIG help - but you will have to be very proactive in this therapy. A word of caution (this includes fingers...) use LOTS of lubricant. The burning sensation can be relieved by you "bearing down" while something is being pushed forward. (This means that you push your muscle as though you were having a bowel movement...sorry) Also, breathe out through your mouth as you are doing this. Take it slow in the beginning and once something is all the way in, just leave it there (no movement), and relax your whole body, getting used to the sensation.

Best of luck to you.

P.S. Don't let anyone suggest surgery... that will only make it worse, and prolong your recovery. Trust me on that one.  (+ info)

my girlfriend has Vaginismus and i need to know how to fix that?

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she keeps on saying every time we have sex i keep hitting her wall
If you're having sex - she does NOT have vaginismus. This disorder PREVENTS intercourse.  (+ info)

Physical therapy for vaginismus?

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I was recently diagnosed with Vaginismus, and my doctor ordered physical therapy. Has anyone else gone through this? Can you tell me what to expect? Also some success stories would be greatly appreciated!
Overview
Vaginismus is highly treatable. Successful vaginismus treatment does not require drugs, surgery, hypnosis, nor any other complex invasive technique. Effective treatment approaches combine pelvic floor control exercises, insertion or dilation training, pain elimination techniques, transition steps, and exercises designed to help women identify, express and resolve any contributing emotional components. Treatment steps can often be completed at home, allowing a woman to work at her own pace in privacy, or in cooperation with her health care provider.

The sexual pain, tightness and penetration difficulties from vaginismus are fully treatable and can be completely overcome with no remaining pain or discomfort.
Women experiencing sexual tightness/pain, penetration problems, or unconsummated relationships can expect remarkable resolution of their vaginismus, allowing full, pain-free intercourse.
Treatment steps can usually be completed at home using a self-help approach, allowing a woman to work at her own pace in privacy, or in cooperation with her health care provider or specialist.
Vaginismus treatment exercises follow a manageable, step-by-step process (see Steps below).

Physical treatment
Physical treatment of the internal spasms may include sensate focus exercises, exploring the vagina through touch, and desensitization with vaginal dilators. Dilating involves inserting objects, usually phallic in shape, into the vagina. In treating the spasms through dilation, the objects used gradually increase in size as the woman progresses. Medical dilators may be obtained online, though they may be expensive.  (+ info)

I have vaginismus and Im pregnant?

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Pap and pelvic exams are next to impossible. How will this affect my baby is there anything that i can do to help the situation.????
its basically a psychological fear of penetration which causes your pelvic floor muscles to contract which either closes off or makes the opening to your vagina--cervix very small---which makes a pelvic exam really hard...
im not afraid of penetration I can have sex but its painful. its a involuntary response I have no idea how I got this.
You will have no problems delivering your baby. (I got pregnant with my first by artificial insemination while I was still suffering with vaginismus.)

There is no need for you to have an internal exam while you are pregnant. I didn't have a pap until 2 years after my last baby was born.

When you get to the hospital - ask for your epidural immediately. Then, anytime a medical person comes into the room, ask them to check your dilation - don't care if the last check was 5 minutes ago. You won't feel it, and it will make headway into stretching that cursed muscle.

While I ultimately ended up with an emergency c-section due to fetal distress because I didn't progress fast enough (nothing to do with vaginismus) my doctor told me that a vaginal birth is completely possible and will often relieve vaginismus symptoms.

Best of luck to you.  (+ info)

Does anyone know anything about vaginismus?

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Please let me know how you have handled this problem!
I am familiar with vaginismus because of other women I know that have the problem. Some of them did physical therapy to try and help the problem get better.  (+ info)

Iam in vaginismus problem and I want 2 have ababy by injection I want 2 know is it painful or not?

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Do you have vaginismus, or are you pregnant? (referring to your previous question about hair-coloring during pregnancy)

Either way, having a baby hurts like hell.  (+ info)

Can birth control cause vaginismus?

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A little over a month ago i began taking the birth control Reclipsen. About 2 days after taking the first pill, i couldn't get a tampon in. I had only been having trouble with tampons, but now my boyfriend and i are having trouble during sex with penatration. Sometimes we just can't have sex at all. Could the Birth Control cause this?
I am not sure. It sounds like you should make an appointment with your OBGYN, just to discuss your symptoms and possible allergy with him/her.  (+ info)

how can i overcome vaginismus? [without spending a lot of money]?

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i found out i have vaginismus, and i know on the website there is a packet for 100$. i was wondering if anyone know a cheaper solution maybe dilations at home or something cheaper, pleaseeeee help!
vaginismus is a disease where it is impossible to penetrate or hurts when you do [using tampons, sex, etc] and there are mild to severe cases. it seems as if your vagina is "too small". and it is a psychological thing, the muscles tighten up because of nerves. i know you can get a book and real help but they are expensive. and no, there is no medical perscription for it either.
Hi! I suffered from vaginismus and hesitated to get professional help for a long time. Then I went to a Sexual Dysfunction Clinic and followed what the psychiatrist advised me to do and sorted out this problem in four months. Here are the steps I followed:
1. For the first 2 days, look at your genitals with the help of a mirror.
2. For about two weeks, insert your finger upto the first knuckle (not more) into your vagina and wait until you relax. your finger should be clean and lubricated with baby oil. When you feel that your muscles over there relax, take your finger out and then insert again. Do this as many times as possible every two days. The more you do it, the sooner you go on with the next step. My doctor had said that some time later I would get used to these exercises so much that I would do them while watching TV and I hadn't believed him, but guess what? He was right.
3. When you are comfortable enough with one knuckle, go on with upto the second knuckle for another two weeks. And then another two weeks with upto the third knuckle.
4. Follow the same steps above with your two fingers now.
5. Follow the 2nd, 3rd and 4th steps with your partner's finger. You won't believe how much you will improve.
6. Insert your partner's penis (not all), wait until you relax. With each penetration you will see that he can go deeper. Use some lubricant. While practising with your partner, don't forget use a contraceptive method unless you want a baby.
7. And finally you feel so relaxed in your vagina that you will have no problem at all.

After all this, I regret putting off finding a solution for such a long time.

Good luck!  (+ info)

Is there a clinic in the UK that gives BOTOX treatment for vaginismus please?

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Perhaps check with the doctor who suggested that Botox would be a suitable treatment for vaginismus.  (+ info)

How to overcome vaginismus?

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I was diagnosed with vaginismus about two months ago and have been ever since using the treatment kit from www.vaginismus.com

I went all the way from the smallest dildo to the third, which means I'm one step away from the life-sized one. (and this was great achievement because two months ago I couldn't even insert a tampon without screaming in pain).

The problem is, I'm been using the third size for a while now, but it still hurts too bad when I try the life-sized one! What can I do to help this?

Anyone had the same condition and got cured?
Hi,

I am glad that you're having some success with the kit from vaginismus.com. Did you also do the workbook?

I work with women to help them overcome issues of painful sex, including vaginismus. Often, women also need the help of a Physical Therapist and/or a sex therapist/coach. There may be other emotional factors affecting your ability to receive penetration.

If you don't have any sexual health practitioners in your area, you can look on AASECT.org for a list, and you can also contact me. I can do sessions and assessments online.

I'm glad you're being persistent and getting the help that you need! You're being very brave.

- Becky  (+ info)

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