Is there anyone here who has overcome vaginismus?

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If so, I sure could use some advice and maybe some tips on how to overcome it, too. All answers are greatly appreciated!
Pelvic floor muscles tighten up whenever you try to insert anything that it becomes far too painful to wear tampons or have sex. I've never been able to do either because of this, but I am working on it. I was just wondering if there was anyone here who has gone through it. It sure would help to have some tips:(
Yes. Go to the Yahoo groups site and plug in vaginismus. There are several online support groups here that you can join. Also, go to www.vaginismus.com and purchase yourself a set of dilators with instructions. This is ultimately how I overcame the disorder.

Best of luck.  (+ info)

What exactly is "vaginismus?" Can this situation be solved?

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I would prefer receiving answers from women who have had this problem.
It can totally be fixed. It's an involuntary seizing up of the muscles in the vagina, so sex cannot be had, or it can but only very painfully. The cure is to get "dilators" that progressively teach you to relax and loosen the muscles to admit things into it. There's a lot of information here: http://www.vaginismus.com/
It's pretty common, which is why there's so much about it.  (+ info)

Is there any hope for a vaginismus sufferer to marry one day?

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Vaginismus is when a vagina doesn't open in order to have sex http://www.google.com/search?hl=en&q=define%3A+vaginismus&meta=

I want to marry and lead a normal life and have normal sexual relations,I become deppressed about my condition.Ive never had a real boyfriend cause of this,I wouldnt know when to tell him.
Vaginismus can be treated.
http://www.vaginismus.com/vaginismus-treatment  (+ info)

Any inspiring stories of overcoming Vaginismus?

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I suffer from vaginismus, I know everything about it & I am currently using the dilators to treat it. I would love to hear other women's success stories as this gives me encouragement and inspiration. Sometimes I feel I'll never get past this.
Hi, I'm very sorry that you suffer from this disorder. I know from firsthand experience how frustrating it is.

Before I offer my encouragement, I'd like to address the website that another user referred - womentc.com. I'm sure they are very good at what they do, but they cost $10,000 USD with no guarantee for success. They also told me that I would never overcome vaginismus without their treatment process. Guess I sure showed them...

Dilators are definately your best source for overcoming. I know they're uncomfortable, and you probably hate them as much as I did, but ultimately they worked for me. You WILL get past this. I know sometimes it feels like you're the only one in the world.

You know, there are yahoo groups that you can join for support. Try the one called PrimaryVaginismus. It will probably be the most supportive for you.

Best of luck.  (+ info)

How to have sex with a girl with Vaginismus?

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Any tips?
PLEASE, if you don't know the answer and you answer just in order make points, don't. Do it somewhere else :)
That's a really tough one. I've heard it be compared to an eye that shuts when something comes towards it. The only tip I could really give you would be to take things slow. Give a lot of attention to her erogenous zones prior to penetration, and make sure she's relaxed and comfortable. Here's a site that can help you find and stimulate those spots.

http://www.sexinfo101.com/pw_erogenouszones.shtml  (+ info)

How do I know if I have vaginismus?

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Well I recently have been having problems... down there. I've even woken up in the middle of the night with my cervix uncontrollably dilating. I'm definitely not going into labor or anything, I wish to know what this could be. Thanks.
Are you sure you mean your cervix? That is deep inside and is the entrance to your womb. How do you know it is dilating? It would be painful and you don't mention this. Do you perhaps mean uncontrollable spasms deep inside? If so, that's probably an orgasm. You can wake up with them if you've had a particularly fruity dream!
Also you mention vaginismus? I think what you are thinking of is a condition whereby the muscles of the vagina tense up so much that it is impossible to insert anything, a tampon, finger, penis into the vagina. This is not under the woman's conscious control, its an automatic reaction often caused by fear or abuse etc. It has nothing to do with dilation of the cervix. If you are talking about spasms in your vagina then I can see how you have linked this but I do not think you have this. Repeated uncontrollable spasms without any attempt to penetrate your vagina is more likely to be a sexual reaction as I said. Don't worry about it.  (+ info)

to those who have suffered with vaginismus?

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has it ever come back? i had it, got over it, but it rears it's ugly head sometimes, ranging from just hurting to not being able to have sex at all. i was under the impression that once you have got over it, it would not come back. any advice ?
Ive had it and got over it, but just recently i had a really really REALLY bad experience with a doctor, and after that it reared its head again for a while, but now it seems to have gone again. its a horrible thing to have, and i feel for anyone who has it.  (+ info)

How effective are the dilators for Vaginismus?

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I saw that 99.95 kit on vaginismus.com and i was wondering how effective it was. Anyone have any sucess stories? anything would really b helpful!! thku!! =)
They have a yahoo support group for Vaginismus where a ton of people share their success stories with the dilators and other things they have done that have worked. It is a really respectful and kind place, so I suggest you join the list serve. Helpful hint--you may want to have an additional email address just for the support group because you get a lot of emails every day, and most are beneficial to read.

Also, some doctors are very familiar with the condition (especially physical therapists who specialize in pelvic floor disorders) and can help you out.  (+ info)

How can someone overcome vaginismus aside from psychosexual counselling & the use of vaginal dilators?

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I see you have some wishful thinking going on. I also went with this theory - for about 9 years. Then, when my husband was fixing to leave, decided that maybe I'd better hunker down and use those horrid dilators. 6 months later, we were having regular intercourse.

Bottom line - I don't think it's possible that you can. Although vaginismus is psychological, in the end, it's just as physical a problem. In my humble opinion, and as a vaginismus "survivor", the counselling wasn't necessary - I did fine without it - but there just isn't a way without using those dilators to train your mind and accustom your body to the sex sensations.

Good luck to you.  (+ info)

Vaginismus, have you heard of it? What can we do to overcome it?

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Vaginismus is the involuntary (not under the woman’s conscious control) clamping of the vaginal muscles. Which has made it impossible to have intercourse without pain. A recent consultation resulted on my partner being put on mild anti depressants. Which after about 2 months have not helped. Has any women / couples suffered from this and what suggestions can you give if you overcame it
fortunately i have not had this problem but i did have a girlfriend who did and after considerable medical treatment, including anti-depressants (which did not seem to work either) she tried the vaginal dilators and that did have the results. she is now happily married and enjoying a full sex life. btw when she got married she still had the problem but her husband was extremely sensitive, understanding and caring and sex was just the bonus of the marriage but not the end all or be all.

whilst i did not, at the time, know that this was what her problem was when i went into the net to see if i could help you and whilst there were a lot of sites listed (some advertising various treatment kits which i did not bother to investigate) i found one put out by wikipedia. i just put in vaginismus and then picked the wikipedia one and after reading that i recognised that was what my girlfriend had.

go into this and you will not only find it interesting you may find what you want to know. after this you may will to explore the treatment kits and see if they would help.

good luck to you and your partner, this will take a lot of patience and understanding and with that things should improve.  (+ info)

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