Those of you who have had problems with your child's behavior at school?

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If you found a solution that works, what is it?
My daughter is disrespectful to teachers and disrupts the class.
She is 6 years old and I need a solution that works.
Due to her disruptive behavior I had her tested for ADD and she is currently on Concerta and that has been helping little.
I need suggestions.
You need to talk to the teacher. Tell her that your sorry for her behavior and explain the situation. You will also need to talk to your daughter. You need to tell her that her behavior is unacceptable. Since summer is here and coming for others, work with her over the summer and discipline her for bad behavior. You also need to tell her that if she acts that way next year, there will be consequences.

When i was growing up, my friend had a horrible little brother. He got sent to the principles office about 2-4 times a month, since kinder to fifth grade. Her parents didnt know why. He also got tested for ADD and didnt have it or got put on anything. He was so disruptive in class. He would get paper towels wet in the bathroom and throw them on the ceiling. They dont just fall off either. He kicked some little boy in his private place cause he was looking at him "Funny". He also pushed a little girls down and pulled up her dress. He eventually grew out of it, and so will your daughter.  (+ info)

what is a typical example of a child's behavior needing correcting?

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And how does discipline correct this behavior
@sahm
Is that REALLY typical? I have never met a kid who bites, and only a few that hit.
It sounds a lot like dog training. That worries me.
Most people don't agree with me but this is what I do and it has always worked for me.

I allow my children to be who they are. I know them well and know what they are capable of.
My youngest gets distracted and can't clean her room. I send her up there to clean and she starts to clean and then gets distracted with her toys. Discipline would be pointless. Instead I go up there and I direct her. I show her where things go and have to supervise the whole thing or it will not get done. Yet, she's still doing the work.


Sometimes my kids forget to do what they are supposed to. Don't we all forget things sometimes? I give them a chance to hurry up and get it done.

Basically I treat them with respect and treat them like people. We all make mistakes. I think parents discipline too much.

If my kid fails a test then her consequence is the grade. She is sad enough and in tears enough over it. I try to figure out why she failed...did she not understand it or did she not try? Was she upset or anxious about something? I get to the root of the problem and address that. If it's because she didn't try then she doesn't get t.v. or computer etc. She has to read her chapters and make sure she does well on the next one.

I have failed many tests in my life for a variety of reasons. I don't think discipline solves the problem.
If kids are punished for bad grades they start to not like school and tend to give up more. It's a learning process.
I've never punished them or rewarded them for a grade and they are A-B students.
I want them to like school and not worry about the final product...the grade. The point is are they learning? Many kids get A's and they aren't really learning.

Lying, cheating, steeling, being mean to someone, hurting someone etc. are automatic consequences. That means they have to go tell the person they lied to that they lied...or stole etc. If they stole they would have to return it. They have to appologize to who they were mean to etc. Then they are grounded or loose something etc.

I always think about human nature. I want my kids to be responsible for themselves and their decisions. I don't want them worried about discipline all the time.

I expect honesty, kindness, effort, hard work, independance, and responsibilty. I didn't have to teach that through punishing them.

My kids are 12 and 10 years old. They are well behaved kids at school and home.
They run to me immediatley when they make a mistake. My daughter even called me from her grandparents house which is 2 hours away to ask me if she is allowed to say the word, "damn".
They will not do a dishonest thing because I taught them honesty.  (+ info)

Do you think children should be prescribed anti-psychotic meds for mood and behavior disorders?

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And do you think pre-schoolers should be prescribed ritalin for ADD?
Dumbest idea ever. Just what you'd expect from the pharmaco-industrial complex. Old-fashioned frequent heavy beatings should work much better.  (+ info)

Do you apologize for your child's bad behavior in public?

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i was at dinner last night with a friend and my daughter (14 months) started to act up. It wasn't embarrassing for me but I felt bad for my friend. She said she didn't mind but I still apologized about it.

Do u apologize (to any one) for ur child's bad behavior in public?
Yes, if you have a small child it's understandable for them to misbehave but it is polite to apologize for having put those around you in that situation. People will be understanding and appreciative. However, when it comes to places like movie theaters I expect parents to leave babies at home and if you bring an older child but they do start crying, to take them out of the theater immediately. Anything less is very rude.

When they get older you should teach them to apologize or at least tell them they are being rude. Kids whose parents let them get away with bad behavior don't see it as wrong and become bratty.  (+ info)

Which topic is more contoroversial eating disorders or child abuse?

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Which one would be easiest to write a speech about and what topics would i be abke to write about them ?
Well, which are you more interested in learning about? I personally feel Child Abuse is more controversial. Sadly there are many aspects of child abuse you could write about...
Physical abuse
Mental abuse
Verbal abuse
Sexual abuse
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Is there a Yahoo group that offers advice on how best to deal with a child's behavior?

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My son, (9 years old), will talk back to me or become very willful and downright mean about certain things. I want to discipline him of course, in a way that is both a "punishment" for him and a dialogue that will help him understand why certain behaviors are unacceptable.
Thank you to all for your answers and the website. Little does the young one know, I am gaining knowledge and he is going to do the right thing! Thanks again!
get yourself into a good parenting course. Here is one I did. Do not tolerate him talking back. If he has no respect at 9 it will only get worse as he ages. Here is a good course you could look at  (+ info)

Has anyone delt with Sociopathic Behavior in Child?

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Im looking for help my 6 yr old step son seems to have Sociopathic Behavior. If anyone out there has had a child that has been diognosed with this please wright me back with your story I want to no what signs your child presented in order to come to the conclution that they are a Sociopathic, and what age were they when you noticed the behavior thank you.
i think taking advice from a past sociopath would be better than from the perspective of a perfectly sane person. luckily, i used to be a sociopath. instinctively, i would admit to nothing that i did whenever i did something wrong, which would be often, and portraying any sense of emotion would be little to none basically. It's kinda hard to explain, basically because the medictation made me forget most of it, and because most of what i do know i don't like talking about. check this sight out though, it will help describe whats most likely happening or what will happen.
http://www.mcafee.cc/Bin/sb.html
-Jeff "Foxworthy" Koen  (+ info)

As a parent, does your child ever frustrate or embarrass you with the same behavior?

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And you've tried everything but nothing works and you feel like giving up? (Not giving the child up but throwing your hands in the air and saying "I give up!")
My kids are ages 10, 7 and almost 4. At some point or another yes, as a parent, they each have done just that. I am a firm believer in strategically smacking tiny hiny as needed but it has rarely actually been necessary, but just enough for them to know when I am serious and what serious means. My wife (a college girl) tempers me a bit and reasons more with them. We wind up as a tag team in this respect and switch "good cop/bad cope" roles as it applies. It doesn't hurt that she is a teacher and working on her masters in early childhood development. My specialty is what I call "street logic" which tends to explaining real consequences via manipulated consequences so my reasoning is a little more raw. Yes, this is a confession that I am manipulative. Trick is that my justice will be far more lenient than what the world will measure out. That is to say, take stuff away when they don't do what you say. If they persist, a swift kershpanking (one swat to the hind parts) is enough, in fact just the hint that that's what's coming is enough (something often referred to as "the look"). Mastering "the look" is a tough task but well worth it. Giving up is not an option. I am sure you know this.  (+ info)

What do you do to measure good behavior of your child? How do you reward them after earning it?

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I dont believe in material rewards. I tell them Im proud of them and good job. You keep giving them material rewards (candy, money and so forth) they will continue to expect it.  (+ info)

What behavior has your child picked up from other kids?

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My sweet little 4 yr. old daughter is now drawing people with 'boobies' as she so politely informed me. LOL Something she definitely didn't learn at home! She also has another girl at the sitter's telling her that her belly button is a 'pee-pee'.

Got anything funny to share with us about your kid(s)?
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