Is it possible to correct the bad behavior of a child?

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My neighbor babysits 2 kids. Ages 4 and 2. My kid
went outside to play, and all of the sudden, I hear "bottle blonde!" and "miss ugly!" I lost it and I ran over to the kid,
but I didn't say or do anything except told my kid to go inside.
But I look back and think what can I do if the situation happens again? Is it appropriate to speak to the child about her behavior or would it be better to speak to the adult?
and I know, "notify the parent or baby sitter" thats what everyone else says.
I am a father of six kids, and my house is the neighborhood play-place as all of the neighborhood kids come over to play with my children. Not once have I ever talked to another parent about there children's behavior. If a kid that my child is playing with is misbehaving, I pull that kid off to the side, let them know that behavior is not permitted, and if his/her behavior doesn't change, then he/she won't be allowed to play over here. After a time or two of being sent home and not being let back over until he/she apologized, my house rules are pretty well followed.
So to answer your question, I would have told those children that what they said was mean and wrong and that they couldn't play with your child until they apologized, and, of course, followed through with it. I wouldn't have sent my child inside since that disciplines your child--who did nothing wrong. Rather, I would have gone somewhere else and played with my child. But, by all means, speak to the children and let them know what your rules are, and, who knows, you might cause them to grow up to be better adults.  (+ info)

Do you believe you should have to reason with your child to get him/her to do a desired behavior?

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I know some parents, instead of correcting a child's behavior (like time-outs) will just reason, and plead with a child to behave in an appropriate manner. Do you think this method is actually effective? Why or why not?

I personally don't think children should be given the choice of deciding if whatever your saying is something they want to do. Yes, you should explain to the child why he should be behaving a certain way, but no compromise should be given.

Serious answers only please!
Completely agreed. That method alone is not effective at all. Young children and older children for that matter do not need to be "reasoned" with. They should not have a choice in whether or not they want to comply with something you have told them to do or not to do. Of course if they genuinely don't understand why, explaining is fine. But never should you compromise your authority as a parent.

I too grow tired of seeing parents begging and pleading with their children to do the right thing only to have the child continue to misbehave with no regards to their parents. It gets both the child and parent nowhere fast. Children must be taught to respect authority and authority does not compromise. Do police officers compromise with people who break the law? Nope. If you are late for a deadline on a project for work, does your boss compromise and reason with you? Nope. Parents who strictly and only use compromising and reasoning will be setting their chid up for a rude awakening and failure as adults.

Sometimes correcting a child's behavior through a consequence is necessary. Consequences are a part of discipline. The other part is teaching. Both go together. You made it quite clear where you stand and I believe what you say to be true and for all ages and stages in childhood.  (+ info)

Do people abort due to genetic disorders identified in the unborn child?

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I wanted to know if people would go through abortion if they found out about a genetic disorder present within the unborn child during prenatal or ultrasound scans. Please list a few reasons; detail isn't really important. I just need a few basic reasons. The reasons can pretty much range from anything - ethical, religious, social, etc. Thanks in advance.
It might be easy for some to forget about religious views and social stigmas, but that is one of the huge reasons that this is so difficult for people. I see prenatal patients who are making these decisions, and the issues that many people consider include not only the well-being of the child, but of the family themselves. Some conditions come with a normal life span, but the person cannot be self-reliant (think Down Syndrome or other mental handicaps). There are some conditions that are a little "easier" for people to make this choice with, such as anecephaly or trisomy 13 or 18, where most likely the child will not survive after birth. But conditions like spina bifida, Down Syndrome, or Cystic Fibrosis (where the child will survive but will need lifelong assistance, or there is a variable outcome that we cannot predict) depend on the individual family.

I personally would not abort except in the case of something as serious as anencephaly, but the choice belongs to each family individually.  (+ info)

What disorders would this be, if disciplining a child / teenager gets them pissed off and aggressive?

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How big of an issue would it be for children / teenagers if they got angry at their parents in return resisting discipline, as if their anger was stronger than their parents rather than the anger scaring them into submission? How frustrating would it be for parents who's child / children / teenage son or daughter cannot stand to be scolded and therefore has a negative reaction in a specific way?
maybe you should try disciplining them out of
LOVE- whether it be spanking, grounding, ect- always remind them after its over that you love them  (+ info)

Is spanking an unruly child to correct his behavior an effective form of discipline? Why or why not?

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It seems to me that in today's world, parents don't discipline their kids and that they are free to rule over their parents. I was spanked as a child and it didn't seem to have a negative impact on my life.
Not only is spanking acceptable it's VERY productive if used correctly, and at the right moments. I couldn't agree with you more, I was spanked too, and am grateful for my parents teaching!  (+ info)

What do you feel is proper discipline for a child's bad behavior?

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I just want to see what everyone thinks in regards to discipline.
For parents do you spank your child? How do you cope when your child acts out in public? What methods work for you?

This is for serious answers only please. Thank you.
Well i'm not a parent but I don't believe in spanking children. What are they going to learn? Nothing because the pain is going to be so bad that they are going to forget what happened. I have a god daughter and whenever she acts out in public I ignore her. I listen to her, explain to her why she doesn't need whatever she wants, tell her own plans for the day (so she'll know that what she wants has nothing to do with our day) and keep on walking. She cries which I hate but kids want everything.
I believe if you talk to them, ask them questions, wait for their answer and explain to them why or the consequences they will get it then they won't get so out of control.  (+ info)

what type of behavior medication can a child with cru de chat take?

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I have a child in more group home with cru de chat syndrome. she is very destructive and unfocused. what type of medication would be helpful for her?
Since she is living in a group home, I assume (hope) there is access to medical treatment at this "home" don't the medical staff there know what she needs?

Is it possible that she wants to be at home with you and is acting out?  (+ info)

What do you think of parents who provoke bad behavior in order to set the child up for punishment ?

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Example: Child wants to play crouquet and he has no homework or chores undone, or no other reason why he can't. But you tell him "No" and he starts asking "Why?" and you punish him for backtalk. Another example would be for a parent to make a blatantly false statement to provoke your child to argument, then yell at him when he "corrects" your statement. Doesn't this provoke anger in the child?
I think they are not fit to have children. They should really get some counselling to find out why they provoke the child they might be bullies and like to assert power over those unable to defend themselves properly.  (+ info)

If your child or teen had just experienced something traumatic would you overlook rebellious behavior?

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If your teenager or child lost two friends in a week (one in a car accident that may have actually been a suicide, and the other to cancer) would you give her a bit of slack and just back the frick off for a while?
Deserman - I'm the teen. Thanks for what you wrote in your edit, it was wise.
a bit of slack, certainly.

but are we talking slamming doors and not clearing dishes at the table, or are we talking throwing rocks at cars and staying out all night drinking? there's some behavior that's not acceptable or safe regardless of whether something traumatic happened or not.

*don't know if you're the parent or the teen. if the teen, i'll say that that sounds extremely hard to deal with, for anyone, regardless of age. but the biggest test of character comes in how you act when things are hard.  (+ info)

What message is sent to a child when he or she is rewarded for bad behavior?

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I have this research project for school. I have to ask parents questions about raising kids. If you answer these questions please put your age by your answer.

1. What is the best discipline for a child?
2. When a child doesn't do what he or she is suppose to do how should they be punished?
I am 28
1. Discipline means teaching children right from wrong and then reinforcing what you are trying to teach them. When children make the right choices and behave well (follow what has been taught) they should receive positive reinforcement in the form of verbal praise, hugs & kisses, etc.
2. When a child acts out and behaves in ways that are undesirable, firmly restate the boundaries that you have set for them, put them in time and when time is up they need to tell you why they were in time out and apologize for the errant behavior, take away something they value ie tv time, video games, bicycle, etc.  (+ info)

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