how to get help for borderline personality disorder without telling my mom?

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ok i have been having these issues for months and almost a year now, i have looked up my symptoms and it has led me to believe that i have borderline personality disorder. the thing is i dont want to tell my mom because i dont want her to be disappointed and not want to talk to me or hate me. i am 17 years old, and last night i cut myself so bad that i think i need help. but i cannot have my mom find out. please help me.
Your parents will likely not be disappointed if you speak with them. They will, however, likely be happy that you have this level of trust and rapport with them. If you truly wish to avoid speaking to the parents, you need to talk to a teacher, school counselor or religious figure that can realistically help you. Borderline Personality Disorder (your cutting suggests you do have your own diagnosis within a reasonable range of possibility) is something you will not be able to overcome alone. You need to reach out to SOMEONE. Pick wisely, but even more important, pick fast.

Best of luck.  (+ info)

Is it possible to have borderline personality disorder, bipolar disorder & major depression at the same time?

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My mother passed Bipolar disorder onto all 3 of her daughters (including myself) and I've been in counciling twice for major depression. I also have a serious concern about Borderline personality disorder. I have many of the symptoms of all three and I'm worried about them and my inablity to get medication.
Yes,it's possible...I already had a bad period like this, when I was younger...  (+ info)

Support group for families of people diagnosed with borderline personality disorder?

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My brother has borderline personality disorder. My family, especially my parents, we all are suffering immensely. I am the oldest and he is the baby of the family. We have 12 years age difference. I am single, with no kids and he is very important to me. He is a time bomb and regularly has explosive temper tantrum that are very painful to deal with. He lives with my aging parents and I suffer to see them tolerate those outburst of rage followed by I love you, I am sorry, I will never do it again to restart the anger cycle over again. I am looking for an online support group. Can you give me information on where I can find such online support group. I am riding the emotional roller coaster and i am at the end of my rope. Help!
I wish you and your family the best of luck.. the people on this site are great and it will help you out alot..
there is a forum there just click on the message board tab..

http://www.borderline-personality-disorder.info

purchase: STOP WALKING ON EGG SHELLS .. its a great book.  (+ info)

What are the main differences between Bipolar and Borderline Personality Disorder?

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My doctor says that I am Bipolar because I'm always having highs and lows. The psychiatrist says that I can't be bipolar because I don't do crazy things when I'm manic and that my moods go up and down too quick to be bipolar and that I have Borderline Personality Disorder. Also, within a 'high' period can you still have 'lows' and 'lows' in a 'high' period for it to be either of these illnesses?
The mood swings in Borderline are much faster than in Bipolar. Also self harm and eating disorders are very common in Borderline but not in Bipolar. Bipolar is also genetic so unless it runs in your family it's not likely. Borderline also includes fear of abandonment and "black and white" thinking.  (+ info)

What is it like to have Borderline Personality Disorder?

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What is it like to have Borderline Personality Disorder? For those of you who have it, what is it like? I'm curious to know.
Borderline personality disorder is definitely no picnic. For those of you who don't know, this is the criteria for being diagnosed with BPD (according to the American DSM IV):

A pervasive pattern of instability of interpersonal relationships, self-image, and affects, and marked impulsivity beginning by early adulthood and present in a variety of contexts, as indicated by five (or more) of the following:

1. frantic efforts to avoid real or imagined abandonment. Note: Do not include suicidal or self-mutilating behavior covered in Criterion 5.

2. a pattern of unstable and intense interpersonal relationships characterized by alternating between extremes of idealization and devaluation.

3. identity disturbance: markedly and persistently unstable self-image or sense of self.

4. impulsivity in at least two areas that are potentially self-damaging (e.g., spending, sex, substance abuse, reckless driving, binge eating). Note: Do not include suicidal or self-mutilating behavior covered in Criterion 5.

5. recurrent suicidal behavior, gestures, or threats, or self-mutilating behavior

6. affective instability due to a marked reactivity of mood (e.g., intense episodic dysphoria, irritability, or anxiety usually lasting a few hours and only rarely more than a few days).

7. chronic feelings of emptiness

8. inappropriate, intense anger or difficulty controlling anger (e.g., frequent displays of temper, constant anger, recurrent physical fights)

9. transient, stress-related paranoid ideation or severe dissociative symptoms

For me, being diagnosed with BPD was a relief in some ways. For as long as I can remember, I never felt normal. I always knew there was something wrong, and now I know what it is at least. It is hard to describe how it feels. I have extreme mood swings, but I am depressed more often than not. At first I thought I might actually be bipolar. I am always very lonely, but I have managed to secure some very important friendships. All of my relationships have been very intense and emotionally exhausting. Often at times I feel I am so alone in the world and I just need someone to be with. As soon as I am with someone, I want to get away. Once I get away, I feel so alone again, and so the cycle begins all over again.

I also have absolutely no idea who I am. I am confused on my sexuality and my career choice (two pretty major things that most people are aware of by the time they reach my age). I wish I could say who I was, but I honestly don't know. My personality seems to change depending on the person I am with. I have two best friends (god I love them for putting up with my shit), and I am completely different around both of them. I think most people take for granted being able to identity with a clear self image of themselves. It hurts me very deeply that I not only don't know who the hell I am, I hate this person inside me, whoever it is.

In I Hate You -- Don't Leave Me! Jerold Kriesman and Hal Straus refer to BPD as "emotional hemophilia; [a borderline] lacks the clotting mechanism needed to moderate his spurts of feeling. Stimulate a passion, and the borderline emotionally bleeds to death."

Dealing with all these intense emotions, I often have found myself turning to other means of regulating my emotions...I began abusing substances when I was 14. By the time I was 18, I was an alcoholic. Then came my eating disorder. It began as bulimia, soon morphing into anorexia. I had to drop out of school to go to residential treatment. At that time I still didn't know I had BPD. It was during my years of treatment that I was diagnosed. I was dumped by many therapists because they literally could not handle me and crazy depths of my issues. A long time has passed and I am still struggling with these issues, although not to the extent of before.

I never did return to school because I am so unsure of what I want. I can't afford to make anymore mistakes. I am so deeply depressed now because I feel I have had every opportunity in the world to make a better life for myself, but instead this is what it has become. I feel worthless and empty inside. I am pretty much dead. None of my friends or family know what pain I am in. Nobody knows that I spend most of my time crying alone in the dark just wishing I could have someone else's life. It is very painful. Sorry this is such a long post, but sometimes I just need to get things off my chest. It hurts.  (+ info)

what to do about borderline personality disorder?

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my husband has borderline personality disorder. what can i do to help him and how do i go about getting help for him. our family is falling apart from it.
The book, "I Hate You, Don't leave me" helped alot. There were passages where I was able to see word for word my partner's behavior and once the tantrum passed I talked about it to her. I know there are different types of borderlines and it can be inherited and triggered by stress. The biggest problem for me is the anger and not being able to reason with the person during the fit. I am fortunate that she recognizes the problem and wants to change it. Not everyone does and that can be extremely difficult. If your husband wants to seek help then you are in a good place. Read all you can about BPD. Walking on Eggshells is a good one as well. Knowing which traits your husband has will at least give you a heads up in seeing what day to day issues you face that you can share with his therapist. I believe the therapist must understand that these behaviors are most extreme at home where no one is watching. Borderlines can redo their memories to discount and dismiss what they have done very easily. This is an extreme challenge. The therapist must support you and if they don't I would confront him or her on it.  (+ info)

Does anyone know any very good websites to explain Borderline Personality Disorder?

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I was just recently diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder, i would really appreciate if you could give my some really good web sites to help me understand BPD a little better. All of the websites i have been to are helpful but they really don't give me the information i am really looking for. They only tell you the definition and i want to know everything there is to know.
http://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/publications/borderline-personality-disorder.shtml

http://www.mentalhealth.com/dis/p20-pe05.html

http://www.stanford.edu/~corelli/borderline.html

also ask your gp he/she mite have soem helpfull pamlets  (+ info)

What is the difference between a "Borderline Personality Disorder " and a "Personality Disorder " ???!!!???!!?

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HELLO.

I was just wondering what the difference is between a: BorderLine Personality Disorder and a Personality Disorder
( without the Borderline). What the difference between 'BPD' and 'PD' ?

I have been asking to question everywhere online and cannot seem to get an accurate answer and this is really frustrating. Will Somebody, anybody please help me.

Thank You so much!!!
Personality disorders are defined as rigid and repetitive thoughts and actions. The DSM-IV (which lists "mental" illnesses) says there are 10 personality disorders:

Cluster A (odd or eccentric disorders) are:
Paranoid personality disorder
Schizoid personality disorder
Schizotypal personality disorder

Cluster B (dramatic, emotional, or erratic disorders) are:
Antisocial personality disorder
Borderline personality disorder
Histrionic personality disorder
Narcissistic personality disorder

Cluster C (anxious or fearful disorders) are:
Avoidant personality disorder
Dependent personality disorder (not the same as Dysthymia)
Obsessive-compulsive personality disorder (not the same as Obsessive-compulsive disorder)

So you see that BPD is simply one of the many different personality disorders. (Sort of like saying a Volkswagon is a car.)

This is the best article I have ever found on BPD: http://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/publications/borderline-personality-disorder.shtml

My first husband was a BPD.  (+ info)

Suicide is the only solution to Borderline personality disorder?

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My brother is borderline personality disorder...once or twice a week he gets episodes of rage, depression and anxiety. He is divorced, has no job and is it pure sufferings.

He is taking medcations for BPD but sometimes i also believe suicide is the only option to end the sufferings.

Instand end of borderline sufferings- suicide
I have borderline personality disorder myself. It really is painful but suicide isn't the way. I have tried to kill myself plenty of times and I have come to realize that maybe that's not the way it's sappose to go. I'm trying to get my meds right and if his meds aren't helping he should try another. There are alot of different kinds of medicine and some people have to try many different times to get it right. If he's not already in therapy he should deffinitly try that. And maybe going to the gym to get his anger out. Just some ideas. Just because he has a mental dissorder does not mean suicide is his destiny. Personaly I believe that everyone suffers from some sort of dissorder. Hope this helps.  (+ info)

what's the difference between personalty disorder and borderline personality disorder?

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is it just that the symptoms are stronger with personality disorder than borderline peronality disorder?
Borderline personality disorder is a personality disorder. There are ten altogether I think some are:
Antisocial personality disorder
Borderline personality disorder
Avoident personality disorder
Dependent personality disorder

Borderline personality disorder is a complex disorder to have and to be treated, some professional have a negative opinion of borderlines due to the manipulative behaviour but what you should know is that the behaviour is from the disorder not the person.

Type in borderline personality disorder into yahoo to get more details including symptoms and tyoe in personality disorders to get the list of all of them  (+ info)

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